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For you, right now · Love & Relationships

The Hurt of Heartbreak, and How I Dealt With It

What I did the morning after everything came apart — and the small, unglamorous things that put me back together.

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A note before you start reading

I didn't set out to write a blog. I set out to survive a Tuesday — and found that writing it down made me feel less alone with it. If any of it sounds familiar, pull up a chair. I've been waiting for you to get here.

— Joy

Or just read a while

The diary, quietly

Honest stories from one woman's life — the joy, and the rest of it. No dates, no order to keep. Start anywhere.

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My Story

My Story

The woman behind the diary — and why I started writing it all down, one honest Tuesday at a time.

By Joy · My Story · 6 min read
  1. 01 Love & RelationshipsThe Argument That Finally Changed UsThe fight I'm glad we had — because of what it asked us to become afterward.By Joy · 7 min read Two coffee cups left on a kitchen counter at night, one nearer the edge, warm shadows
  2. 02 MotherhoodThe Truth About Perineal TearingThe honest, rarely-posted account of afterward — told plainly and without shame.By Joy · 5 min read Soft rumpled linen and a folded towel on a made bed, quiet afternoon light
  3. 03 Body & WellbeingFeeling at Home in My Body AgainThe work of coming back to yourself isn't dramatic — it's small, repeated, and entirely yours.By Joy · 4 min read A warm mug resting on a windowsill in soft morning light, steam rising
  4. 04 Style & ConfidenceThe Small Rituals of ConfidenceA made bed, a good coat, five quiet minutes — the unglamorous habits that carry me through.By Joy · 4 min read A neatly made bed with the duvet smoothed, soft morning light
  5. 05 Love & RelationshipsThe Hurt of Heartbreak, and How I Dealt With ItFacing the pain honestly — not running from it — is the only way through.By Joy · 4 min read A cup of tea going cold beside a crumpled tissue and an open journal, grey morning light
  6. 06 MotherhoodPreparing for Motherhood: What My Mother Never Told MeThe tender, terrifying run-up — and the plain truths I wish someone had told me first.By Joy · 8 min read A folded blanket and a small vase of flowers on a windowsill, warm light
  7. 07 Style & ConfidenceDressing for Myself FirstGetting dressed with intention — one of the quietest love notes I send myself.By Joy · 5 min read Clothes on a rail beside a mirror catching morning light
  8. 08 Body & WellbeingComing Home to My Body After BirthThe number on the scale was never the point — here's what actually helped me feel like myself again.By Joy · 4 min read Soft linen sheets and morning light through a curtain, a robe over a chair
  9. 09 MotherhoodHow I Balance a Career With MotherhoodTwo full-time roles, one imperfect woman — and the small practices that keep me standing.By Joy · 4 min read A laptop, a planner and a coffee crowding a small desk in soft lamplight
  10. 10 Love & RelationshipsWinning His Love Back After a MisunderstandingThe quiet, unglamorous work of finding your way back — when the distance is worth closing.By Joy · 4 min read An empty window seat with a cold mug on the sill, soft daylight through the glass
  11. 11 My StoryWhat Joy Is MineThe name comes from a poem — and from a moment I didn't expect to change me.By Joy · 4 min read An open handwritten journal and a pen on a bed, soft golden light
A few of my favourite things

Makers, brands, and small shops whose things have found a place in our actual days — the honest cup of tea, the worn-in notebook, the coat we keep reaching for.

and a few quieter loves I keep coming back to